Pain builds strength. I know it’s hard to believe that, but if it weren’t for my darkest moments, I would not have ever found my strength. Your perspective can either be your power or your prison. You always have a choice. I chose to embrace my past. It took me a while to understand that I have the power to not allow my past struggles to define me or my future.

I struggled in silence for most part of my life. I spent a majority of my life thinking I was a failure. Most days, I asked myself why am I even here. When depression takes over you feel like you aren’t in control. It’s like you’re drowning. It seems as though each struggle gets harder and harder to deal with. It feels like each new struggle comes back with greater force and grabs you by the ankle and drags you back under the water just as you’re about the reach the surface. I have been dealing with back to back struggles ever since I was 13 years old and I never seem to catch a break for too long.

My biggest mistake all these years was never telling anyone how I felt in fear that they would either brush me off or panic and try to commit me to a hospital or something.

You don’t have to go through your struggles alone. I learned the hard way that people are actually willing to help you if you just ask for it. How do I know that? Because I know I am willing to help someone who asks me for it. I encourage everyone to foster an environment of confidentiality and understanding. Non of us really know how much someone else is hurting. You could be standing next to someone right now as you are reading this who is completely broken and have no idea. My own family and friends who knew me didn’t even know what I was mentally dealing with. Whatever your struggling with, whether its relationships, work, school, finances, body image, whatever it is, I encourage you to never be silent about your battles.

There is a purpose greater than your pain. Every struggle is a lesson in life. You learn what not to do and what you are capable of. Each and every person on this earth has a purpose in life. We all have personal goals, dreams, and desires. We each find out what our purpose is at different points in our lives. I found out what my purpose in life was when I was 21 years old. That was the age when I finally made the choice that changed my life. That choice was putting myself first. That choice gave me the courage to leave my toxic relationship, to finish college and to pursue a career in counseling. So no, just because you are struggling doesn’t mean you are a failure. My struggles have helped me achieve many goals in my life. My struggles will help someone someday. My struggles have taught me one of the most important lessons – live your life, not your struggles.

Do not let your mistakes break you. As long as you forgive you, you will have a break through. You are just one choice away from a new beginning.

It’s time to put a semicolon where you want to put a period.

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